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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I "poisoned" my kids against their dad and the lying scuzzy other woman. I told them exactly what they did. Kids were appalled and stopped speaking to him. They were high schoolers so I just said so sorry dad missed your game, he was too busy screwing his girlfriend.
Despite all the protestations on the DCUM, it worked great. All our friends took my side.

Ex gave up and just sends the checks now. We are all happier. I hear that marriage is on the ricks now, too![/quote]

This is terrible, I would never hurt my kids this way, and you have damaged them for the rest of their lives.  Yes, their father is an absolute ass (as was my XH) and he was the one who had to tell them the truth about our family breaking up, but I would never want them to sever their relationship with him.  He is their father, faults and all, and you know what, he's a good father, just a shitty husband, as I know he will be to her.  Your kids don't need your baggage in their lives.[/quote]

I don't know why pp used the word poisoned. Unless she constantly bad mouths him, then I disagree about that. I would absolutely tell the kids why dad left the family, that's the first thing they ask, there's no way out of that. Lying to your kids is also wrong. I would tell them dad didn't want to be married, and started seeing Jane and now they are living together. That would be it.  At that point all you can do is move on. The kids will decide what kind of relationship they want to have. If the husband cheated he isn't a good father to the kids fyi. A cheater doesn't just cheat on their spouse, they cheat on the entire family.  Just look around at the horrible domino effect cheating causes to the kids. [/quote]

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