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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I "poisoned" my kids against their dad and the lying scuzzy other woman. I told them exactly what they did. Kids were appalled and stopped speaking to him. They were high schoolers so I just said so sorry dad missed your game, he was too busy screwing his girlfriend.
Despite all the protestations on the DCUM, it worked great. All our friends took my side.

Ex gave up and just sends the checks now. We are all happier. I hear that marriage is on the ricks now, too![/quote]

My mom pretty much did this - poisoned us against our dad, denied him access, eventually he gave up. So she "won". Yay. I can see, with the benefit of adult perspective, that this inflicted severe, long-lasting psychological damage on me and my brother. I have never told her this, and she'd no doubt emit a huge cloud of annoying self-justification if I did. So please, don't do this to your kids, however much it feels like "winning" to you in the short term.[/quote]

Why shouldn't  you take your mom's side? What is wrong with you?[/quote]

Oh I did take "her side" when I was a kid and when she was energetically alienating him from me. Now that I've grown up and moved out, I see what an awful, abusive, narcissistic attitude that was, and my sympathy for her dropped to zero. She didn't actually care what harm she did to us - it didn't even occur to her that she was harming us - because she was so wrapped up in her own rage and desire to use us to hurt him.[/quote]

Wow, are you my sister?  Cause my situation is exactly same.  Dad cheated with his subordinate.  Mom went full poison, and I now actually have some sympathy for dad seeing her crazy side.  He is still my dad, I am half him, you test him down you tear me down. My relationship with mom is tenuous now, I could write a book on it.

OP don't take this advice unless you want your kids to suffer too[/quote]

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