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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm shocked so many people have NEVER used a non family babysitter or any type of babysitter for that matter.  Don't you need a hair cut regularly, have to see the dentist, the dr, ever meet friends for lunch or book club, go out at night with your spouse on occasion??

We don't live near any family and my husband works tons of hours and is often working late into the evening and on weekends.  I have several babysitters; mostly neighborhood girls in high school but some college students too for daytime appointments I occasionally have.  [/quote]

You’d be surprised how many moms don’t have a life outside of their kids.

Go and look around suburban america at the moms.  You really think they are spending time at the hair salon?  [/quote]

Yep.  Still shocked.  Especially for the DC area where I feel it is fairly to have one spouse put in a lot of hours and to not have family close enough to babysit every single time you need them.

Even if you aren't getting root touch ups ever 2 weeks and monthly facials, the most basic level of self care requires going to the salon every few months and dr/dentist without your kids.  I can't imagine bringing a toddler to the dentist office while I am being seen.  Do people really do this?  My kids enjoy having fun with babysitters.  They are young and fun and are always introducing something creative.  Much better than dragging a young child to drs appointments (or whatever appointment) and sticking them in a chair with a tablet.  [/quote]

I didn’t use a non-family babysitter until my kid was around 2. I go to the dentist every 6 months (DH is able to work from home). I can get haircuts or the rare pedicure on Saturdays when DH is home. My mother visited once a year for a week or so and I was able to go out alone during that time. To be honest, without daycare or preschool, I just had no idea how to find a sitter I could trust alone with a baby who couldn’t talk. Once he could talk and tell me what he did with the sitter, I felt ok using an outside sitter. I know there are sites like Care, but there have been several recent scandals involving abuse and molestation and I didn’t need the break enough to want to leave him with a stranger. If he were in daycare, I would have felt ok asking for personal sitter recommendations.

I don’t think I’m in any way a perfect mom or a martyr mommy, but DH and I just didn’t have any great ways to find someone. We asked friends with kids and they all had sitters from daycare or had family, which didn’t help us. [/quote]

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