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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]There may be reasons why your family are no longer taking care of their home well. It could be their vision isn't great. It could be depression or finances. It could just be inertia when it comes to dealing with things that are not entirely pleasant.

That said, for the most part the problems that you cite are not health and safety emergencies right now. The problems are enough that I wouldn't love eating at their house, however. It's important to remember that you can't control others, only your own reaction. You can say something. You can even say that it's bothersome enough that you don't want to do family meals with the in-laws. But as long as they are of sound minds and bodies, you really can't take charge of their home and decisions about that home. [/quote]

This is the most reasonable advice here.

(And no, I don’t think it’s reasonable to somehow “demand” a competent adult fix-up their house. Unless things have gotten to the point where you are looking to a court to award you guardianship, you have to take “no” for an answer.)[/quote]

Those who think the solution is simple obviously haven't been there. Unless you want to have your parents declared incompetent, you can't force them to do anything. You'll probably end up being denied access to their house. You can offer to help, but you can't do anything if they say no.  
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