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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]ffs help them clean their house. Or hire someone to come weekly to do it. You sound like a totally useless b*tch. [/quote]

They allowed a bathroom leak to ruin the ceiling and a wall in their living room and now they just don't use that bathroom.  Their dishwasher broke some time ago and they haven't repaired it.  There are dishes piled in the sink and gunk and grime all over the place.  Their yard must be a jungle.

A weekly cleaning service can only do so much. I have seen people in their 80's and 90's age in place and still take care of their homes better than a lot of younger people would.  But that is not the case for Op's parents.  And, no, I don't think that adult children can reasonably be expected to take on the upkeep of their parents' large home.

Op's parents have clearly decided that they want to spend their time/energy/money on active, fun leisure activities.  More power to them - they've worked hard and they've earned the right to make that call.  What they can't do is dump their chores, maintenance and basic upkeep of their home onto their adult children.  Nor is it reasonable for them to just let their property go to the point that they are literally letting the place deteriorate around them - unsafe and unsanitary.  That's no way to live.  It's time to downsize and simplify.

If you have an older parent who has every closet crammed full of stuff, things stored under every bed, in every crawl space and a dusty attic that is crammed so full of stuff that you can't access it or a basement piled high with stuff - it is time to help them go through and pare down.  Get a dumpster if you have to.  Sell what you can.  It is going to take time to go through all of it and your parents only have so much stamina..... so start today.

If your parents' house is falling into disrepair with an overgrown yard, leaky bathrooms, broken appliances, dust and grime everywhere - consider that a wake up call.  They need to downsize.  Don't wait for it to be an emergency situation where one parent is trying to do it all alone while taking care of their sick spouse.

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DP.  What do you do when your elderly parents adamantly refuse to consider downsizing, insist on continuing to running a boarding house out of the house, and ask you for money for "groceries because we don't have any money this month to even buy eggs!!" on a regular basis, meanwhile refusing to liquidate their $1mil + of real estate? Asking for a friend. [/quote]

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