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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think people are beating up on OP. Sounds like her DS is pushing too hard and OP is trying to help him save face or worse, be perceived as predatory. This is a real fear, and everyone needs guidance about how to back off of romantic intentions when they are unwanted. Even girls.

Parents are supposed to talk to their kids about how to "do life" but also give them the rope to practice. It's a balance, and giving some gentle guidance or story-telling through it is not helicoptering. I do agree maybe this is better coming from dad or uncle though. But not imperative. [/quote]

+1 I'm chiming in OP because we may have a similar situation. My son has always had lots of friends that are girls. I've known them since they were in kindergarten. They hang out at our house.  I care about the girls and the guys too. Over the years, I've also watched them become girl "players". They love attention, want every boy to think they're beautiful, sob about being single (ha), and the ones who do have boyfriends complain and cry if they don't have the undivided attention they want.

YES boys are friend zoned and strung along and made to jump through hoops. My kid is friend zoned often. He doesn't care. I've told him a few times to know when to back off if he's crushing. He tells me that it doesn't matter because that's what his "girl" friends want. He's taught me that the male ego isn't so fragile at this age (DS 16). He's probably just hoping to get to first base.

It's all a game as young teens. If you have an open dialogue with you son, go for it! Maybe he doesn't realize he's in the zone. But I bet he does and he's cool with it. [/quote]

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