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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I had to give my son a talk about the way girls communicate.

Boy: want to go out with me?
Girl: um, maybe I don't know.

Boy: didn't get told no, so thinks he should keep asking.

Boy: So, want to go out Friday night?
Girl: Welllll ... I think I'm busy Friday
Boy: Oh. So want to go out Saturday?
Girl: I'm babysitting.

Boy:  didn't get told she doesn't WANT to go on a date, so thinks it's just a scheduling conflict.

I had to explain to him that girls are taught not to say no, and if he doesn't get a firm yes after two asks, he needs to mentally hear a "no" and move on.  If the girl wanted to date him, she would say "I'm babysitting, but I could do something Saturday afternoon/next Friday night."

*Yes, I know they don't really date anymore.  It's an old-fashioned example.[/quote]

Exactly. I also remember the day my son realized that girls can have whole conversations amongst each other without using words. He was flabbergasted when a girl "translated" an exchange they saw between two other girls. He said "It took about three paragraphs worth of words to explain, but the silent exchange was less than two seconds!"

The communications gap is real.[/quote]

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