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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP.  You will only get this type of notification if your 18+ child is attending a very small private LAC....i.e.,, Roanoke College, St. John's College. Even then, they don't technically have to tell you anything as your child is an adult.  However, small private LACs tend to offer a more "TLC"approach.  [/quote]

[b]If the student hasn’t signed a waiver it violates FERPA - a federal law. [/quote][/b]

Both of our children signed FERPA and HIPPA waivers as conditions of us paying 95% of the freight (didn't qualify for merit; didn't get more than min $5K loan from FAFSA).  One is SN. [b]You can't advocate with the Office of Disability Services (ODS) if you don't have a FERPA waiver.  [/b]We wanted to  be notified if either one of our children had a legal or health waiver.  HAving those waivers is the only way to get it.  Otherwise, you will wind up like a friend who didn't know her own son was flunking out of college until she accidentally tore open a letter from the college sent to the home (because he was supposed to be there - he had already been kicked out for bad grades - she didn't know).  It's infuriating but the way Colleges want it to give them more control over situations on campus.  It's especially important in the era of me-too and sexual assault allegations being tossed right and left and Colleges generally making a muck of the on-campus legal reviews.[/quote]

T[b]hanks for this. I have a teen with special needs and am struggling with the idea of letting him go far away without our supervisio[/b]n. [/quote]

Definitely look for an institution with a strong ODS office.  There are a number of books that can help you evaluate that but one quick way is to see how many employees work in the ODS office commpared to total number of students on campus.  A lot of colleges make promises about accommodation but fail, especially when dealing with a professor who won't comply with the program set out by ODS.  From day one we were involved in one child's meetings (and she was 17 but emotionally 12) with ODS to establish what supports the university would give and what they would not.  There were several times when DD's self-advocacy with a professor didn't work and we had to ask for a meeting.  Some professors were so rude they wouldn't even listen long enough to hear the "We have a FERPA waiver" before saying "I won't talk to parents" and hanging up.  which is where, unfortunately, you have to get ODS involved.  So, yes, if you have a SN kids, read up on FERPA waivers.  It's very easy to do but you have to be aware of them.  The first time I ever encountered one of these issues was when a relative had a DD at an elite SLAC you would know the name of.  She just stopped attending classes and flunked first term grades.  Her parents, who were paying $60K+ a year were never notified.  She was not special needs.  So FERPA waivers were an understood rule in our family if we are paying for the education.  Also, if my DS has been accused of sexual assault, I want to know immediately so I can hire the best lawyer for him and try to get the mess away from a campus tribunal.  Early intervention in something like that is key.  Fortunately, that has never come up, but it can.[/quote]

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