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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Has anyone had an abortion and how did it affect you? I'm pro-choice but now that it comes down to me making the decision, I'm scared of how that will affect me. [/quote]

I had one. I regret the circumstances that led to it, but not the abortion itself. It was also at the 3-month point in the relationship. I did therapy to deal with the trauma of the relationship and it also helped me address whatever feelings I had about the abortion.

That said, I am now a single parent and it's tough financially, but wonderful in every other way. You can definitely do it, but you have to get yourself employed. I would not have had a child if I were in a precarious financial situation even if I had family around willing to help (which I don't).

Definitely do not move in with the boyfriend. If you decide to have the baby, co-parent from separate homes so you can see how your relationship progresses without the dependency of a live-in situation. This will also allow you to suss out what kind of parent he is without placing your 3 yr old at risk. You call yourself single in your heading, start thinking like a single woman who is considering having a child. Approach this as if you and the baby will have no one to depend on but you. Do not expect that you will have help from the BF.[/quote]

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