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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I either talk about my kids or pop culture because I’m not interested in sharing anything of myself with coworkers I’m not close to. [/quote]

+1   But apparently we need to cross the kids off the list. [/quote]

I do not talk about my kids at work or pregnancies. And then I was told by my male manager at my performance evaluation that other coworkers thought that was cold. You can't win! I work in a 100% female environment. My pregnancies were IVF and I had lots of health issues, so I wasn't comfortable talking about them at all (I lost a 20+ week pregnancy). During my pregnancy, one of my meaner coworkers told me she knew I wasn't happy to be pregnant, but they liked being included in my pregnancies. Another coworker thought I didn't like children because I didn't want to discuss mine. None of which could be further from the truth. I love them to pieces, but I really want to keep things professional. Plus it's weird being the only 30 year old when everyone else is 55-65 years old. They don't understand and are judgy. "I don't know why young moms still rear face their poor toddlers." Or snide comments about pumping breastmilk. If I say anything about my kids, they'll just say they had it harder and how easy it is for moms now. I've encountered this dynamic before too at a previous job. FWIW I'm a lawyer and all my coworkers are paralegals or admins.  [/quote]

Sounds like they're just a bunch of miserable old cows, PP. If you did talk about your kids, they'd find a way to dissect and judge everything you shared. [/quote]

Yes exactly. And that's why I don't share.

During a presentation I opened my laptop and there was a new diaper inside of it that popped out. I think one of my kids put it there? Anyways, I laughed about it, but they didn't. They said they'd been there before and had had things happen like that to them. It's just such a strange dynamic that makes me feel un special.

And conversely, they will complain about how I don't share more. [/quote]

The next time they crucified you or drop a snide comment respond, “see those types of comments are why I hesitate to share anything about my children.”  [/quote]

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