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[quote=Anonymous]We are one and done by choice. The only times I feel a little alone or like I don’t fit in is when I get together with mom friends and they start talking/complaining about how tough it is logistically for them, or about how expensive things like camp and sports are for both of their kids. Or my fellow teacher moms who are exhausted from having their kids home all summer because they can’t afford camps for their kids so it’s “camp mom”, meanwhile my kid goes to day camps all summer because he loves it and we can afford doing it for one. Don’t get me wrong—those things are tough and I don’t envy those situations. Sometimes in the moment they’ll forget I’m there or that I don’t have more than one and make a judgmental comment about how easy so and so has it, and I’ll kind of sit there silently because I’m in the same boat as so and so.

The thing is, I have two chronic illnesses and know my limit. What looks “easy” to them is actually quite difficult for me a lot of the time and DH and I know my/our limits which is why our family is the size it is. To me their complaints about logistics and being exhausted are all by choice whereas I didn’t have any say in the matter. But I feel grateful we have what we can handle and it works for us so there was no desire to change that dynamic.

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