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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I just turned 39 as well and have 3, though my youngest is only 1 1/2. We're done barring an oops. I would be content with a 4th, but I'm also looking forward to moving into the next phase of life. And, as someone who had the 3rd at two years older than you, OP, it was hard on my body and I bounced back more slowly than with the first two. I'm back now, but boy.... recovering from that 3rd one while pushing 40... really made me feel old. [/quote]
Op here, yeah I feel ya — my body is not back but could and would definitely get way worse.

Still, in 2060, am I going to be like “so glad I kept sculpting my still mildly squishy abs and got to renovate my kitchen in 2023?” Because it feels like that is what I would be trading the baby for.  The sick part is that I’m not really joking. Working out and decorating are things that I really enjoy and thought I would do in my 40s. The idea of having to talk about things like teething with much younger moms is also so unappealing. And yet...babies are such miracles and this is the only chance. Alas, no, I can’t get the same feeling from holding somebody else’s.[/quote]

DH and I tried for a 4th, had a miscarriage and didn't try again.  I always wanted a big family, but the miscarriage made me realize I was wanting a 4th baby to extend the family we already had, but that wasn't a guarantee.  Even if you take out the big 'what ifs' of having a child with serious disabilities, or having multiples instead of just 1, there was also the risk that the child we had would just be a jerk or otherwise ruin the good thing we had going.

I don't regret sticking with 3 at all.  [/quote]

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