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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I didn't read most of this thread, but want to respond to the OP. I married a man from a different (lower) class than mine, and yes, there are differences that get on my nerves. For example, he refuses to go to the symphony or opera, so I have to take the children alone. I resent this. I can't understand why he thinks the symphony is boring or a waste of time. He may not like it, but at some level, he must (and he does) understand that it can be a nice thing to "expose" our children to. I loved going to the symphony and to the opera as a child. It was a big occasion, and we always got dressed up and went somewhere nice to eat before or afterwards.

It feels like DH is rejecting my "culture", and he is. But on the other hand, I reject his culture in many ways too. He slips into the local vernacular from time to time, and I hate it. I always call him on it. Yes, I know this sounds incredibly snobby, but I can't stand those speech patterns, and yes they sound uneducated and lower class, which they are.  [/quote]

NP here.  Just wanted to comment that some of the differences might be innate personality differences and not just cultural differences.  Because I grew up in a very similar background to the one you describe, and while I will attend with family / friends, I don't really get much out of going to the symphony or the opera.  They just don't resonate with the way my brain processes the world.  It also sounds like part of why you enjoy going is the emotional connection it gives you to happy memories from your childhood, and it makes sense that your DH wouldn't react the same way.  To me the issue would be him refusing to participate in something that brings you joy, rather than the simple fact that he didn't personally find much pleasure in the activity.  [/quote]

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