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[quote=Anonymous][b][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, there's a huge difference between age 40 and "almost 42" in this scenario, unfortunately.

It certainly isn't impossible, but it is going to be very unlikely.[/quote]

She is 41.75 years old and will probably be 42 by the time divorce is finalized. I think it will take her time to be even ready to start dating again and then to find a guy who wants to start trying for a baby immediately seems like it would be very difficult.

She met her husband on a dating app and they did want the family. I think the problem was [/b][b]they were more in love with the idea of marriage that they weren’t in love with one another[/b]. Or so the husband says. Baby did not happen immediately and fertility problems magnified everything that was wrong with the relationship. Family and finances were big ones.

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OP, like others on this thread I deeply sympathize with your friend, but when I read stuff like what I bolded above, I think it’s extremely important for your friend to do a serious reassessment. As a PP pointed out, she needs to get through this divorce, she needs some time to heal, and throughout she needs to be doing therapy. While PPs have shown that it is mathematically possible, I think your friend will not be able to find a good partner in her current mindset. It seems that the first marriage was problematic because the drive for a bio child superseded any of the other things that make a good marriage.

It clear what your friend [i]wants[/i] as it’s what most people would want. If she refuses to consider any alternatives, it could lead to disaster. 
Wiser for her to first just take some time off and heal, and then decide what’s most important.
Marriage to a life partner
Having a biological child
It’s possible she could get both, but more realistic and healthy for her to make a decision which of the two is her top priority and make that the focus for the next few years—again, AFTER she’s done some healing time post-divorce.[/quote]

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