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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I think you need to stop criticizing Op!  They have their own life in their own town! In-laws  just decided to barge in on them!  Who wants or needs that?  I have a nice relationship with my in-laws, BUT would fall apart if they moved here on my turf.  We all need our space and they have no right to move here!, [/quote]

Your "turf" is literally the turf on which your house or apartment or condo or whatever sits. That's it.

I live in a Maryland suburb. My ILs, like anyone else, are free to move here. Doesn't mean I have to give them a key or even answer the phone or the door. You can bet I would be setting some crystal-clear boundaries. But I wouldn't be acting like I own this town and it's my "turf," becasue that is both untrue and ridiculous, and I don't deal in falsehoods and fantasies. [/quote]

dp:  OP is not “acting line she owns this town.”  She is dreading what seems to be inevitable conflict between DH and his parents, and between her and DH, because DH is going to have to develop new skills and practices to protect his family from a now-close-by pushy and judgmental MIL.
  OP knows she wants clear boundaries, but she is not directly in control of setting them, which is why this situation is tricky for her marriage.

Everyone can keep saying the solution is simple, but that doesn’t make it so.
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Dum -Dum that poster was NOT responding TO OP , she was responding to a pp WHO LITERALLY SAID THE IN-LAWS WOULD BE ON THEIR TURF. SMDH[/quote]

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