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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So, I am confused by the responses in this thread. 1) Mom cheated and that lead to a divorce. 2) Dad, OP, has refused to bad mouth Mom to kids 3) Dad is paying child support for Mom, even though she was the one who had an affair 4) Dad has daughter in therapy 5) Dad is willing to not go the divorce route to save Mom, who had an affair, $550 a month in additional medical costs It sounds to me like Dad is doing everything he can to help his daughter and is not being a dick to his Ex. Dad is encouraging his daughters to maintain a relationship with their Mom, even though she cheated on him. Dad is home, providing for his kids, providing for his Ex. Dad voices that he might want to have an adult life at some point in time and wonders how to do that if the eldest daughter continues to refuse to go to Mom's house. He is not doing that now but thinking about it in the future. As I read it, Dad has stepped up to the plate, done what he should do for his kids, and is doing more for his Ex then he really needs to. Why are people questioning his parenting?[/quote] He thinks the mom living 10 miles away is a complication He does not want 100% custody so he can date. He wants to leave a 17 yo girl home alone when he travels. He wants to have sleep overs with girlfiends when his daughter is there. He wants to cut child support. He doesn't make his daughter go to her mom's even though there is 50/50 custody. [/quote] He thinks that it is a longer commute that his kids won't like for school. He said he is looking forward to having an adult life but also said he is not ready to date yet. I mean, how awful is it that a parent is looking forward to having time to themselves at some time in the future. Awful, simply awful. He was asking if it was a good idea. My parents left my brothers home alone when they were 15 and 17, my younger brother and I went to a neighbors house because we were too young. For the record, there were no parties because my parents told the neighbors that my brothers were home alone and they kept an eye on the house. My brothers had emergency contacts and went to the neighbors to have dinner with us. He does not have a girlfriend and said he is not interested in dating right now. He wants to cut child support because the kids don't want to go to Moms so why should he pay child support? He is respecting that his 17 year old daughter doesn't want to go to Mom's because she knows that Mom cheated and feels that her Mother is emotionally abusive. The daughter is in therapy. Sorry, but at 17, the daughter should be able to make her own mind up about where she wants to live. If a Mom posted that their 17 year old child did not want to live with Dad half the time because Dad had an affair and was emotionally abusive, people would be all over protecting the kid from the Dad. OP is kind of a dick in his responses, he is pretty fast with the insults and bad language. He is not a saint. No doubting that, but I have to believe that if I women posted this story people would be tripping over themselves to pat the Mom on the back for taking on two teenagers after their Father cheated on Mom and why oh why shouldn't she move on with her life? [/quote]
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