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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I can empathize. I do best when I have really clear boundaries with my mother. She wants more, despite not being capable of providing the emotional support I needed as a kid/adult. I feel badly about not meeting her needs since I am now a parent myself, and I know she did the best she could despite not having the emotional capacity to parent me like I needed. I try to keep boundaries clear and be as warm and loving as I can without ever leaving my safe/secure/not-close-to-her-zone, if that makes sense. But I really don't give my mother all that she asks for...so I empathize with your situation. Also, all of the PPs who are judging you so harshly for your teen behavior -- who was the child and who was the parent? OP needed to grow up and did. Her mom wasn't able to parent her without judgment (labeling her "difficult" etc). Some of that baggage persists to this day. That's unfortunate but maybe water under the bridge. OP, I went to therapy with my mom when I was in my 40s. It was a mistake because my mom is not capable of emotionally processing what she would need to in order to make any changes (forgot stuff we'd worked through from one session to the next) but I am glad I gave it a shot. You might want to as well.[/quote]

New poster. I just saw a family therapist with my own mother and it was so obvious that the family therapist was listening to me more than my mother. And she gets mad that I ended up revealing our family history of violence and abuse to her therapist. Now she wants me to see another therapist with her but with  strict instructions to not talk anything family-related. I feel sad often when I hear of my friends and their normal parents, because I just wont achieve what they have with my mom. Regardless of the number of therapy sessions.[/quote]

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