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As you’re about to raise your own mixed race child, you may start to hear “white side” and “brown side” a lot more in the future!

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I already have a child and I have been married for 7 years. I have never heard a South Asian refer to themselves as brown. They say South Asian or Bengali, Indian or Pakistani. We also live in a predominantly Hispanic city right now and they do not refer to themselves as being brown either. I think the only person I've heard say this is an Indian comedian and that was on TV. 
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Full Bangladeshi PP here.  Desi-Americans call themselves brown.  It's common among those of us born here, so that's probably why you haven't heard it from your husband or his (presumably) fobby friends.

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I have lots of South Asian American friends. I am Arab American myself. We don't refer to ourselves as brown either. It's not as common as blacks calling themselves black. Frankly I think my husband would be offended if I went around calling them my brown family. It may be no big for you but it's definitely not as common as you seem to think it is. You said yourself none of the immigrants do it. That's a hell of a lot of immigrants to piss off BTW.

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I'm not sure why they would be "pissed off" as there is nothing derogatory about it.  That said, if your husband's family doesn't call themselves brown you probably shouldn't do it either (since you don't have a direct claim to the moniker).  PP who is half-brown and half-white uses the term because she actually is part brown.

Since you seem so incredulous - http://lmgtfy.com/?q=brown+desi[/quote]

Look I don't know but I find it weird because it's not as common as you think it is. People may use this on Saturday night live or DCUM but it's totally different to use it in real life. I have been around brown people my whole life and have NEVER heard anyone use it. I personally feel weird calling people brown or even black. It's slang. I don't refer to my Hatian neighbors as black either.

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This is totally off-topic, but since you've completely hijacked the thread anyway, I feel the need to weigh in. My husband is an immigrant, from India, and he refers to himself as brown all the time. As do his Indian-immigrant friends. It's totally common, at least on the East Coast and in large cities. It's not derogatory in any way. [/quote]

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