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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Im half Bangladeshi and was super curious about this and asked my family. They were VERY insistent that yes of course it causes miscarriage and shocked that I risked this baby (I’m in my third trimester) with pineapple over the winter. Ha! Learn something new every day!

Meanwhile they don’t blink at coffee and tea during pregnancy and that has been linked to miscarriage in the first trimester. So go figure.

My white side of the family had a lot more to say about the risks I would take during pregnancy than my brown family.

I think you’ll benefit your relationship with your MIL and DH  by acknowledging the concern, telling them you did research, and asserting you’re moving forward with cooked, non-core pineapple bits based on your informed understanding of the risk. [/quote]

OP here. I find this hard to believe. Why don't you give examples of what your white family is concerned about? BTW my husband has never referred to himself as being brown. Must be a weird DCUM thing. I never hear it in real life.

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As you’re about to raise your own mixed race child, you may start to hear “white side” and “brown side” a lot more in the future!

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I already have a child and I have been married for 7 years. I have never heard a South Asian refer to themselves as brown. They say South Asian or Bengali, Indian or Pakistani. We also live in a predominantly Hispanic city right now and they do not refer to themselves as being brown either. I think the only person I've heard say this is an Indian comedian and that was on TV. 
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Full Bangladeshi PP here.  Desi-Americans call themselves brown.  It's common among those of us born here, so that's probably why you haven't heard it from your husband or his (presumably) fobby friends.

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I have lots of South Asian American friends. I am Arab American myself. We don't refer to ourselves as brown either. It's not as common as blacks calling themselves black. Frankly I think my husband would be offended if I went around calling them my brown family. It may be no big for you but it's definitely not as common as you seem to think it is. You said yourself none of the immigrants do it. That's a hell of a lot of immigrants to piss off BTW.

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