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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]My MIL has hoarded all kinds of antiques, china, furniture, knick knacks... you name it. And she keeps buying more. She says it's "for us when she's gone".

Every time she brings it up, my husband tells her we will not be taking any of it and it's going straight to Goodwill, and she gets extremely upset. Then she goes back to pretending we never had the conversation and buying more stuff. "It's for you when I pass!"

Noooope. We keep a fairly simple, uncluttered home, we dislike knick knacks, and we already have nice china and all furniture we need. If she wants to spend her money on stuff that's going to be donated when she passes, it's her money to waste.  [/quote]

Why does your husband have to say that?  Why does he have to be a jerk to his mom?  Just donate the stuff when it's time, no need to rub it in her face that he plans to do that.[/quote]

Did you not see in my post that she is a hoarder? Like what you see on the TV show - furniture and boxes of stuff piled up high everywhere with paths throughout the house. Our kids cannot enter her home because it isn't safe. She isn't financially stable either, yet can't stop shopping. She uses the "it's for you when I die" excuse to justify her shopping and hoarding habits.

These discussions happen because a) she asks us for money, or b) she wants the kids (who are very young) to spend the night in that house. My husband doesn't just randomly come over and tell her he's going to get rid of all her things. Usually the conversations go one of two ways. "I need X amount of money" - "Mom, I will directly pay a bill on your behalf but I am not going to give you cash to buy more stuff." "But if's for you when I'm gone!" or "I want to give you a break - bring the kids for the weekend." "Not until you clear out the mountains of things in your house." "But it's for you when I'm gone!" [/quote]

DP.  Perhaps if you had done a better (much better!) job justifying your label of "hoarder" in your original post, the PP would not have responded as s/he did.  Frankly, I think you're probably being hyperbolic and now trying to lay it on thick.  I agree with the PP that you and your husband sound like you're pretty unkind and rude to his mom.[/quote]

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