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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP, this time is about you, DH and your baby.  And what you are comfortable with as a new mother.  It isn't a time to worry about a negative, emotional draining family member, even if she happens to be a grandmother.  You can't change your MIL - she got to raise her family her own way and she is who she is.

If I had to do it all over again, I wouldn't have spent those precious years when DC was younger trying to figure out how to make MIL happy.  Nothing was ever enough and it was EXHAUSTING.  Looking back, the conversation revolved around MIL's feelings and what she felt entitled to.  It was never about DH and me as new parents, how we were doing and what kind of support we actually needed.

I hope things get better for you.

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Young kids are physically demanding. Women are expected to do everything - do not add guests who are unhelpful and critical. If MIL wants more time, the husband should  arrange for his mother to visit and squash the comments. [/quote]

+1, totally agree[/quote]

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