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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Never, really.  Even when they are at school I'm the one on call.  It's not like I can head to Rehobeth and for a beach day and relax and drink margaritas.  I can get stuff done around the house, I can run errands, I can work out but I need to be ready to snap to it and pick a kid up as needed.[/quote]

This is just dumb.  By your logic no parent is ever 'off duty.'  OP obviously means when you're not the only adult directly supervising the children.  Come on.[/quote]

This. Working parents are on call too. OP means when the children are actually present.

[b]What I find interesting about this thread, though, is all the people including nighttime/post-work hours. So if the working spouse gets home at 6 pm, the SAH spouse is still on duty? [/b]The working spouse works 9-5 (or whatever) but the SAH spouse is on duty 24/7? That seems unfair. DH and I both work out of the house and when we are in the house, either we are both on duty, or we split it up. Staying at home should not be a license for the working spouse to never lift a finger with regard to anything non-work-related.[/quote]

Duh.  This is a surprise?  It’s why staying home is a bad deal for so many women.  You aren’t earning a salary but you’ve taken on 24-7 work.  It may make the family life better but at the expense of the woman’s self respect and her career.  Some women don’t seem to mind it, but others do.  Anecdotally, almost all SAHMs I know have a 1950s style relationship where they do everything at home and the husband doesn’t lift a finger.  [/quote]

SAHM of 3 here. I’m not necessarily off duty when DH comes home but it isn’t like DH is off when he gets home. He either watches kids while I make dinner or he will grill while I make a salad. My toddler runs to daddy and he picks her up as soon as he walks in the door. We are a well oiled machine. [/quote]

If you think him picking her up is doing an equal share of parenting then you do you girl.[/quote]

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