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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  [b]I didn't write that I extended the invitation[/b], or that this is my mother.  Of course there is nothing else going on, otherwise I would have mentioned that as well.

I think DS feels it is important for her to be there.  I'm not particularly concerned with graduations personally, as I managed to avoid both my undergrad and graduate school ones, but it's not about me.  I think that's what irks me--it should be about DS, not about what we, the other adults, find convenient.

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Um...no. This is an invitation. It is to be accepted or declined. It's not a summons. Would it be nice if she came? Yes. But she is not obligated to if she doesn't want to, for ANY reason.

"I think DS feels"...well, what with being 18 and all, DS can get on the phone and talk to his grandma, with whom he is close, if he wants to.

You are warming up to really work yourself into a resentful place over this. Take a step back. [/quote]

I didn't say it wasn't an invitation, I said *I* didn't do the inviting.  Of course it's not a summons.

I clearly disagree that there is no obligation to attend important events in the life of your family.  Am I really the only one that thinks there *are* familial obligations?  [/quote]

I think graduations are NBD and no, I don't this qualifies for a familial obligation.  [/quote]

I think graduations are NBD, along with weddings, christenings, and most funerals.  I still go to them because they are familial obligations and most people disagree with me that the aforementoined are NBD.[/quote]

I never said weddings and funerals were NBD. Christenings on the other hand, like graduations, skip.

It sounds like you are really angry at her for not coming.[/quote]

Interesting, because although death is forever a wedding ain't necessarily. But as a general rule people can't be un-graduated.

I got in huge trouble with my sister because I missed her son's graduation with a 4 -year degree from a for-profit, mostly online college (one with a relatively decent reputation, after working for a company that does Medicare audits he went to work as an accountant for Microsoft). I didn't go to a ceremony for my BA but I was a part-time student when I finished the BA requirements and actually in grad school when I officially got the bachelor's. But all my cousins who did college in traditional fashion did the cap and gown thing and it was a big deal and everyone got the photos at Christmas if not before. [/quote]

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