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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Idiot. You don’t. You say we thought it over and we think this other school is a better fit for you and our family. [b]Never tell a kid they didn’t get in![/b][/quote]

People like you, who can't teach a kid about disappointment and failure, just got caught in the college admission scandal. Who is the idiot?

https://www.nytimes.com/2019/03/12/us/college-admissions-cheating-scandal.html[/quote]

Pick your battles – you don’t have to make a big to-do about making sure your child knows he was rejected from an early grade. They don’t understand the importance and it’s not critical for them to know they were rejected. You’re the parent, you can keep the info age-appropriate. For older children, find a way to articulate what happened in a way they can understand, like “just too many kids this year.”  [/quote]

What's the difference between "too many kids" and "you didn't get in this year"? It's just a fact. If they want to ask why, you can explain to them all the factors. Schools don't just consider each individual, they look at the big picture, they think about how to build their own institution (financial issues), etc. All the better they learn this before the college admissions process. They probably don't even care, it's just an opportunity to explain how much luck and contingency is involved. It's healthy to have that talk so that if it comes up in their friend circles they'll have a grounded view of what this hoopla actually means. 
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