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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]No shame in only wanting one.  Very few people love parenting in ALL of its stages.  Maybe a later one will fit you better.  Maybe you'll endure being a parent.  That would be sad, but not something you can do much about.[/quote]

Agree with this poster. 
Also, even though in my case I loved my child, I did enjoy being a mother and parenting, I could not fathom having a second child until the child was at least 2.5 years old. Just having the one child was so exhausting for so long. Plus I initially was planning to be a SAHM for the child's entire first year. I made it till Month 10 then started a FT temp job, I was going nuts not having enough adult interaction, adult conversation, and an identity other than being a Mom.

Even if you feel that this doesn't feel "right," I think there would be a lot of people feeling similar. It would be a spectrum, from ones who think they were born to be a mother, everything about it feels natural to them, to the other extreme. Just like people out there with jobs, there's a spectrum of what people feel, some feel so comfortable in their chosen career. I have been a "lawyer" for over 15 years, but it never really felt totally "right" for me or that it was the best fit for me. In the attorney world here in DC (with a super big concentration of attorneys), and having worked in the document review "temp" world for attorneys, I can tell you there are a ton of people who don't feel going to law school or becoming a lawyer was the best fit for them. So each person adapts, changes, accepts, or whatever else they choose to do about it.

For parenthood, the drastic choice would be to give up your child for adoption. But if me simply saying that is turning you off, then I guess you'll have to go the Adapt route. I think it's totally ok not to feel like motherhood is awesome or the best fit ever or something. There is so much variety/range of spectrum/differences among women. I think what you describe falls under the range of Within Average Limits.

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