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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I have a two year old who I genuinely am obsessed with. He's also a good, easy kid on the whole. I am glad he's in my life. But we've been at this for two years now, and I can't stop thinking that parenthood just isn't really my thing. I mean obviously it is now bc here we are, but it doesn't play to my strengths particularly well. I like it the best when he's sleeping and I can do the things I did before I had him.

I feel like I am two faced about this. On one hand, I am a happy, smiling mom who reads the books and sets boundaries and has a schedule for him and plays cars and sets up paint projects...but then I hear about my peers having number two and I can not even begin to fathom why anyone would like this so much they'd do it again. I'm afraid I will never truly lock in to parenthood or something, but instead[b] just love this kid and have the good sense to be a responsible adult about bringing him up in a reasonable manner.  I feel really guilty about this.[/b] Like I should have a deeper connection to this role in my life. My husband seems to have it for fatherhood and I'm scared to say something to my friends who are having kid number two and just seem so locked in. Should I go see a therapist and unpack this? Is this a symptom of having baby/toddler? Or is it ok that being a mom doesn't feel "right" for me?[/quote]

That sounds fine to me. [b] Being a parent isn't about feeling like a parent, it's about acting like a parent.[/b]  I don't know what it means to "lock into parenthood."  I love my kid, I make sure she's fed and clothed, I work to teach her manners and social skills, I play with her and read with her and tend her boo-boos, and to me, that's being a parent.  It's not some mystical thing or the core of my identity.  I love her more than my life, but sometimes I don't love the day-to-day of parenting.  I think that's fine.  [/quote]

this is great.[/quote]

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