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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Is there just one crazy person on this thread giving OP a hard time?  It’s weird.[/quote]

I think so. There’s one nutter who is really harping in OP’s communication problems when it’s obvious to the rest of us OP doesn’t want to identify the item because it is unique and would identify her family.

Anyway, it sounds like the bigger issue is husband not pulling is weight with the household and caregiving duties. If we have the money, I don’t care what my husband buys, which I think is OP’s position too. It’s more that husband shouldn’t invest so much in this hobby when he hasn’t been pulling his weight. My husband likes to run marathons but it’s time consuming to train. I usually don’t have a problem with it. He wanted to sign up for a race two months after my due date. I told him hell no because training would mean not enough time helping me take care of a newborn. Husband respected me, was upset, but didn’t do it. If he did it anyway, I’d have been unbelievably angry and betrayed feeling.

The thing is with my example above — I could point to the special circumstances and I think husband could understand why he needed to devote more time to family. If OP’s husband has been getting off light all these years and doesn’t understand wHy this purchase would make things any different — maybe that’s where the disagreement is. If I were OP, I think I’d have a long uncomfortable talk with husband about all the chores I do and what I expect him to step up and do. I’d also say I need you to devote x amount of hours to hanging out with me because I need that to feel close and maintain our relationship. Then all the extra time he has he can spend on the “boat.”  [/quote]

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