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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Look OP, you either hurt your inlaws feelings a bit by being upfront before they die.  OR you lie to them and get rid of the collection after they die.  That's pretty much your choices.

The 3rd choice, accepting, maintaining, and GROWING, an insane collection of books that no one even uses or looks at is completely out of the question.

I'd start letting your DH know your feelings now.  I can't believe you'd even consider buying a huge house just to have a home for books you don't even want.[/quote]

Thank you for your reply, i am OP, I agree with you, it's silly to think that I could build a big house to display the books.  I am just a bit scared to bring up this topic to DH or my in-laws.  I think they take great pride in their family tradition, and their library is a symbol of knowledge.

I guess I can start talking to my husband about it, then seek an opportunity to discuss it with his parents.  I just hate to be the "bad guy" who is bringing this up, as if I am ruining their family tradition.  UGH, maybe I'm overthinking this.

And also, they have a lot of "stuff" beside books.  How to keep those "stuff" is another topic.  [/quote]

You DO NOT talk to the inlaws.  You talk to your DH.  He does all the talking to his parents about this.  So for now, all you need to do is get your DH's thoughts on what he's going to do with these books.  Then you slowly start poking holes in his dream world about how these books are not a gift but instead are a burden.[/quote]

OP here, I see your point.  In my case though, I have great relationship with my in-laws.  I am worried that my DH will be pressured to take all the books, he is a good son after all, and his family had some great proud history, so that adds another layer of pressure.  But if I could be involved in talking to my in-laws about those books, they maybe willing to deal with them themselves, and realize DH and I just have no space to accommodate.  And it is so silly to line our walls with that many books that NOBODY reads.  Books are meant to be read.  [/quote]

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