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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I see why it’s annoying.

But if this is a garden-variety practice, eh, he can miss. If he’s Michael Phelps on the rise, fine. If not, it’s one practice for a family event.

Does she play second fiddle to sports schedules a lot?[/quote]

This.  Put it into perspective.  She is his grandma, this team will be over in a few months.  At the very least, inform the coach that your son has an important family event so he will be leaving 30 minutes early.[/quote]

But can’t Grandma put it perspective and have dinner the night before or on the weekend?[/quote]

NP here who has been a direct witness to the decline of several elderly relatives, and who has studied and written about matters related to gerentology.

To answer your question: Maybe she can, but maybe she can't.

Perhaps OP can share more about her age and overall state, but honestly, elderly people face isolation and feelings of being unimportant and invisible--even when they are otherwise healthy. And health issues like dementia might well also be in play.

The point is, when dealing with the elderly, you can't just assume that they are an adult the way we think of a healthy 45-year-old with a full life. There can be a lot of factors here. If something seems "off" about Grandma's response, don't jump to the conclusion that she's choosing to be selfish or dramatic. Really think about what could be going on.

As for sports, yes, it's important to honor that commitment to your team. But isn't your family, first and foremost, your team? If 30 Tuesday evenings out of the school year are dedicated to soccer, can't one of those Tuesday evenings be wholly or partially dedicated to family? [/quote]

Ok I’ll play. I guess I am an expert too having seen elderly relatives in decline. Also RN for 25 years. Maybe grandma is being an entitled control freak because she always was. Spare me the drama. 
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