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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here—thanks for weighing in, PP.  Did you always feel that way about your DH’s family?  Because my DD adores her fiance’s family—which, in a vacuum, would be a positive thing.  In this case, it raises more fears/doubts for me.[/quote]
OP. How do you know DD loves them? Are you sure this isn’t your interpretation of DD keeping the peace with her in laws? I married into a close knit family of idiotic bigots and I despise most of them. I am tolerant in a distant, polite way and we see a lot of them at DH’s insistence. My parents have convinced themselves that I prefer DH’s family. Apparently, I’m supposed to refuse to see DH’s family or see them only very occasionally, or else I prefer them to my parents. Instead of making the same efforts to see us that DH’s family did (his parents used to drive three hours each weekend), my parents withdrew more and more while insisting they were being displaced. I found the dynamic they were creating very exhausting and controlling, and let them distance themselves. The result is that I still do not like DH’s family, but I am a lot less close to mine.[/quote]

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