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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Just be proud of him for wanting to chart his own course.[/quote]

I am very proud of him - he is quite an independent thinker. But the job uncertainty associated with liberal arts undergraduate education is making me very nervous. [/quote]

I’m so tired of hearing about the problem with liberal arts degrees from STEM graduates.  DH has degrees from the top two STEM institutions in the US and I make 3 times as much as him with my liberal arts degrees from 2nd rate colleges.  I also outearn the majority of his fraternity brothers with the exception of those who joined Apple early or had a successful start-up.

The field you go into and the amount of drive you have determines the amount of income you make.  Stop worrying about what and how many degrees he has.[/quote]

I am sorry if I offended you, that was not my intention. I wanted to express my ignorance about what he could do with a liberal arts undergraduate degree. The earning potential is my concern and not his. He does not have a burning desire to earn 6 figure salary or work his way up to be there.

That is the main reason I would have liked him to have chosen a major like Comp Sc which gives a certainty to earn decent salary even after undergraduate degree without ever having to work harder or studying father. But he did not want that field. May be I am not expressing my concern well. With his low drive to earn the best using all opportunities, my worry is that he would lock himself up in a low paying job forever and regret much later in life.[/quote]

If you force him into a graduate program and a high paying career that he didn't necessarily choose, there is a good chance he will resent you for it. If you let him be on his own for a couple years - and see what it's really like to live on a low salary - then he might come around to your view on his own and you'll all be better off. I don't think it will affect his life very much at all if he starts grad school in a 2-5 years vs right away, and in fact it might make him MORE successful to wait.[/quote]

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