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[quote=Anonymous]I’m team DW here. Note she has not answered what her DH does around the house. Seems like...nada? Completely unacceptable. I don’t think this sounds like hoarding so much as one WOHM also trying to manage all the household stuff. It’s miserable keeping up with sorting out kid clothes and toys and gear, managing what needs to get returned to the store, making sure you don’t run out of TP, and on and on with all the cognitive and physical labor of keeping a house running. OP doesn’t have enough time/energy to manage it all 100% herself and she shouldn’t have to. The clutter is the spillover.

OP: make a plan w DH to outsource childcare for a stretch so that you can jointly dedicate some time to a big clearing out and organizing  effort (sorting, donating, trashing, etc) and then figure out how to divvy up household tasks going forward in a way that is manageable between the two of you and paid help.

Also, DH needs to get realistic about the fact that stuff for a busy family needs a place to live. If you are a family of readers, he should make his peace with bookshelves full of books. Etc. Figuring out where clutter accumulates normally is a clue to how your family uses the house and where storage or am organizational system is needed.[/quote]

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