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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Eww. You're perpetuating the worst stereotypes about women being gold-diggers.

When I started dating my husband, he was a scruffy guy just out of grad school making $35K/year. He drove a crappy car that barely worked and survived on tacos from 24-hour taco stands.[b] I saw his potential [/b]and fell in love with him. Fast forward 6 years and he's making $230K/year + stock.  [/quote]

Hilarious. You tried to say ‘no’ but really said ‘yes’ — obviously you were not happy with his current salary when you were dating. [/quote]

"Potential" is a horrible reason to marry. Almost every relationship advice says the #1 mistake women make is marrying for "potential." You should marry as spouse when you marry them for who they are then at that time. Otherwise, you can really find a lot of disappointment, if the "potential" does not work out. You got lucky.[/quote]

Slight OT but I have to agree and was going to post the same. When people start talking about the "potential" in their partner I cringe. You haven't learned from all the "DIDN'T YOU KNOW THAT WHEN YOU DATED HIM???" responses? You should love the person for who they are - and not with an * of them getting better/more mature/make more money/less mean/less jealous or whatever - because while we all may grow, it doesn't mean that we all get better in that growth.[/quote]

You're dense. Potential isn't solely about what the person doesn't have -- it's about their capacity to accomplish (personally, professionally, etc.) the things you value in a partner. Am I to believe, then, that you assume no one can ever change and so you choose a partner based on who they are at the exact moment you start to date? That's ridiculous. People change throughout their lives. It's natural. None of us are static.[/quote]

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