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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.  Details of the finances do not matter.  I just want her to look at the total cost and the impacts.  We have over a year to decide.

But, 25K is a number I can pay out of pocket; 70K I can not.  It is that simple.  I do not want to take out loans.  I could pull cash out of my retirement fund (I will be 59 1/2 in her soph. year).  That would probably require me to work until I am 70 instead of 66, though.

I can also point out, that as my only child/heir, in the end it is her money we are spending.[/quote]

Then you need to have a more fulsome, complete discussion with her about what you can pay and what you can't and why. It may come as a surprise to her, and she may be disappointed for a couple of days but that's the only way to get her to factor in cost of attendance.

If you don't explicitly say "there is a limit," don't be surprised when a teenager assumes or acts as if there is no limit to what you will pay.[/quote]

+1 If your child is smart enough to get into BC or VT she's smart enough to understand that spending 45K$ more a year is a huge amount.   In my own experience, the cost of college was the biggest driver in my educational choices.  I chose a more expensive, more prestigious college than other schools which offered me a full-ride and have no regrets because that college opened up higher paying, better career opportunities for me, but was fully cognizant that I needed to take out loans to do so (and my parents kindly did as well).[/quote]

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