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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]The problem won’t be finding men, it’ll be finding GOOD men (real men) who are up to the challenge of dating a single mom. I had my son young, and dated a little bit didn’t find anyone I wanted a relationship with until recently (my son is 9). Happens that my boyfriend is my age, never married, no kids, and is perfect for me - including being OK with the responsibility that comes with me having a child already.

You’ll find someone. Maybe not right away, but you also won’t struggle with finding dates between now and finding the right man. [/quote]

Most men don’t want to raise other men’s children and quite honestly it’s risky for the child.  This is why this family unit shouldn’t be advertised as an “ideal.”

Women who have children with losers need to focus on their kids, wait until the children are adults and then the personal Life can be a priority.  This is what my mother did and I can’t tell you how much I appreciated her sacrifice now that I’m a mother.  We never had to deal with introductions or being forced to live with mom’s boyfriend (gross).  I would never put my children through that.[/quote]

No one is advertising it as ideal. But to say it never works is also false. It can be really beneficial for kids to see mom in a happy relationship and to have a positive male presence.

Sorry that you think a mom having a live in bf is gross. Sexual repression is a burden.[/quote]

I’m the first PP, and I’ve only introduced my son to my current boyfriend - and we’re heading toward marriage. Not right away, but that’s where we’re going. I hate the attitude that single moms should only raise children until the kid goes to college and then can have a personal life - my son needs a happy mom and one who has balance. I’m not perfect, but I’m doing my best on all fronts. It’s also been really good for my son to have a positive male influence in his life In an ongoing relationship, because my ex is a disaster (we split when my son was a baby).

I don’t know how I feel about having a live in boyfriend, but I’m fairly certain we won’t live together until we’re engaged with a date set at least. We’ll have to see how it goes. [/quote]

Choosing to have a child with a man who is a “disaster” and can’t be a positive role to his own child, and needing to split up right after the birth of your child, speaks volumes about your decision making.[/quote]

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