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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Same here. It only solidified my decision to have 2. It is just chaos, all the time. No thank you. [/quote]

Exactly. The whole meme of the frazzled mom who hasn't showered in a week and whose house is a disaster so does not appeal to me. It seems like lots of people think that's the only way to be a "real" mom, but I'd much rather have a manageable life. Since DH and I both work full-time and it's very important for me to have the time to keep the house clean, laundry done, etc. 1 child is enough for us. I don't understand the deification of stress and suffering in the parenting community.

If you can easily handle 3 kids, go for it, [b]but if you *know* it'll stress you out, why put yourself through that? It can't be good for you, your marriage, or your kids. There's no shame in stopping with what you know is a manageable situation.[/b][/quote]

DH and I are going to try for #3 next year. We have a good situation, both work from home and make enough to have a nanny (although at 2 and 3 a nanny isn't really more expensive than daycare).

Right now I would say we have comfortable control over our life. And we like it. And we are kind of scared about the chaos that is going to come with #3. We think it will add stress and difficulty, although I am fairly certain I will still shower daily! I don't think it will damage our marriage, we are pretty solid. I think that would be the one thing that would stop us actually, because we feel like the marriage is really important for the kids.

We feel that you endure the first few years for what the rest of your life looks like. I want three adult children. Three teen children. [b]Big Christmases, lots of grandkids.[/b] I know the diapers and toddler stage will be hard. But we're already almost halfway through that. And once we're on the other side? We have our little pack forever. [/quote]

Talk about pressure on the kids.[/quote]

Seriously. PP, you have no idea whether your kids will be willing or able to fulfill your very detailed future plans. That is way too much pressure to put on your children. [/quote]

NP joining the pile-on - I have 3 and would love if they had a lot of kids but I don't count on it, many things have to happen, none of them anywhere close to certain, for that outcome to actually happen. btw my parents had 3 kids and one grandkid for more than 20 years... they both died and another 4 grandkids happened.[/quote]

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