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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Do NOT wait. I had a baby at 39 and it’s exhausting and I’m now 44 and haven’t been able to have a second.  I think it’s fine to want a man who makes a good income but setting a hard line at 150k is weird.  The bigger issue is your weight.  You are going to have a very hard time meeting someone as a size 16.  Also are you pursuing adoption through foster care? Are you prepared for a child who will have high needs due to neglect or abuse? A child of a different race? If you want a healthy white infant assume you will be spending closer to 65k. Single and overweight isn’t going to make you a popular candidate to a lot of birth mothers so you will a national search.   Cheaper and easier to get a sperm donation and try through IUI or IVF. [/quote]

Myth.

The birth mother of my kid was 40.  The birth father was 46.  Healthy white Caucasian newborn.

Look to the southern states.[/quote]

This was t about the birth mother it’s about the adopting parent.  It’s not a myth at all that adopting a healthy white infant is challenging and expensive. And with so many open adoptions  it’s even more challenging. If I was giving up an infant my
Preference would be to a two parent household. [/quote]

The point is, this birth mom wasn’t some doe-eyed 20-year old.  People on this thread, from their privileged perch, are saying that IF they were placing a child for adoption, they wouldn’t pick a single mom.  But in the real world, ACTUAL birth parents placing kids pick single moms plenty of times.[/quote]

Thank you. I’m pretty sure most putting their children up for adoption do not come from great means and would be happy to place their child with someone who has a wonderful, educated, well off, stable, family. Even if the adoptive mother is carrying around 50 extra pounds and doesn’t have a husband.  But that’s just me. Unlike a lot of you, i also have no race qualifiers. I would welcome any baby; black, white or purple.  - op[/quote]

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