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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]What do you expect, the school to impose some sort of restraining order? Clearly your daughter was gossiping about the girl, and got caught. The girl has already been expelled, and was there WITH HER MOTHER.  I think you need to calm down.  [/quote]

OP doesn't actually know the girl was expelled, she's guessing based on what she knows about policy. For all we know, there's an underlying mental health condition in play here, the parents had been pushing for a different placement for the child that could address her needs better but the school system resisted until the incidents OP mentioned. In that case, she likely wouldn't have been expelled and instead the school system would have expedited the transfer to avoid a lawsuit.

It would explain why Larla was there (no expulsion = not barred from school grounds), makes the other mom's response very understandable if she overheard a student spreading gossip about her struggling child, and would explain why the principal had to frame the response in terms of general security for everyone at pick-up rather than just saying the situation will be address -- the school may be concerned that this weekend's incident will give rise to a lawsuit by the girl's family against the school system and needs to comes up with a system that avoids interaction between Larla and the other students without being perceived as discriminating against Larla due disability.[/quote]

No, sorry, Larla was not supposed to be there. 
Larla was new to the district this fall from a neighboring district and the threats were made in the first weeks of school. There was no prior history with our district. Given the nature of the threats and some other interactions, yes you’re likely right that there are underlying mental health issues at play and I sure hope the child gets suitable placement and treatment.

This is the first and only person my DD has been worried about as a potential serious threat to safety. Does my child need more street smarts? You bet. She could have walked out of the event room and down the hall to find the teacher on duty. But she’s 13, weighing on her mind last week were the Pittsburgh shootings, and she’s still learning how to handle difficult situations. So in that moment she told the person nearest to her who she thought could guide her about her concern. I find it stunning that you and several other posters are far more forgiving of the ADULT in this situation who addressed the children in the manner she did, than the children themselves.

At any rate, I’m confident I made the right call in contacting the principal, and found him very responsive.

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Are you basing all of this on gossip and speculation, or are you violating policy seventeen different ways because you have access to confidential information about Larla?[/quote]

Different poster here, not OP: PP, are you also the poster above talking about how Larla may have a disability etc.? You seem extremely intensely invested in imagining this situation as one where Larla has a disability, OP's DD is a mean gossip and OP is throwing around cruel accusations based on illicitly obtained "confidential information." Certainly Larla does need mental health help since any kid who makes threats like she made is not well and deserves serious treatment. But your personal scenario that turns the DD into a horrible perpetrator instead of a scared kid, and OP into a victimizer, ignores everything OP has said -- and said calmly and reasonably. 
OP, I'm glad the principal responded to you and seems to be on the ball about keeping students safe. [/quote]

I think there's more than one of us who have expressed that possibility. I'm not "invested" in creating a scenario where "OP's DD is a mean gossip and OP is throwing around cruel accusations," I'm invested in raising the possibility that there could be more to the story than OP realizes. As the parent of a SN child who disability (physical, not mental) is not apparent on the surface and whose child has been subjected to ridicule over the years about things he cannot do the same as other kids, this is something I'm sensitive to. Even if I'm correct, though, I don't think OP's daughter is a "horrible perpetrator," but I do think she was perhaps careless/thoughtless in her gossip (which is not atypical for her age, but still something to talk to her about).

Either way, though, OP's daughter handled the situation poorly and OP should address that with her as a parent. The proper thing to do here would have been to find a supervising adult and discreetly ask for help. If OP is correct about Larla, this would have served the dual purpose of actually getting help (which the high school student couldn't provide) and not making a scene that caused the daughter to fear she herself would become a target. If OP is wrong, this would have avoided spreading disparaging gossip about a struggling child, and would have saved Larla's mother the hurt and embarrassment of hearing someone talk about her child that way.[/quote]

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