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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]^^I also meant to add that she did IVF 20 years ago, maybe she wasn't as "worldly" at that time.[/quote]

At 34, having gone to Princeton and Harvard, I'm going to say she was worldly and had experienced a lot of life by then.

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But clearly she had not expected infertility to be an issue that she would experience.  And I dare say most AA women do not "expect" it to be either, not matter how much it is discussed openly.  Infertility may be common conversation for white women, but it is not for black women.

Why are you trying to discredit her truth?  [/quote]

I simply feel it's disingenuous. I sympathize with her experience, and the millions of women who share that experience (myself included), but find it impossible to believe she didn't know miscarriages were common among women of any race.[/quote]

PP, I'm not trying to be argumentative with you.  But let me be clear, if you were to frequent infertility AA discussion boards, most are surprised that miscarriages happen so frequently among AA women, because we as a culture do not discuss them. Society makes it seem like AA women are popping out babies like candy and we can become "Baby Mammas" with a drop of sperm. My own mother had three, plus a still birth that she did not share with me until I was nearly 35, and having my SECOND miscarriage. She would consider us having a close relationship.  So I was going through infertility not knowing that my own mother had suffered through it.  My mom was ashamed to share that with anyone.

Two of my BFF didn't share their miscarriages until many months after they happened.  So it may be disingenuous based on your experience, but not mine and not many in my friend group.  I just wanted to share that because it seems so many white women are questioning her sincerity in this regard.[/quote]

If there are AA infertility boards, that tells me that it's common amongst AA women, just as it is amongst all women. Of course, those boards didn't exist 20 years ago, so  I don't think anyone could be surprised today. But I wasn't thinking that the knowledge would come from anecdotal evidence; I have only had a few women share their experience with me personally. My awareness is a result of reading about it in a variety of places and probably hearing it on TV, often in the context of women putting off childbearing until much later than they used to.

Really, it's not a big deal. It feels nitpicky after talking about it this much, and I'm not judging her or disparaging her for it. I like Michelle Obama. It just surprised me to hear that statement.[/quote]

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