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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]This has to be a troll thread.[/quote]

I wish I were a troll. This is something I'm really struggling with.[/quote]

What you are really struggling with is your own feelings of not having the financial resources to make sure you kid is a sports star and that it is likely that since you don’t have those financial resources your DS will not realize a career in the sport.

At 13, you don’t know if the career  will pan out and it’s really going to be ok to let go of that dream. If your DS is that talented, someone will step in to guide you on how to get him to the next level and help you get the financial support to do it. If that’s not happening, your DS is talented just like thousands of other local kids.

And your other kid? He wants to work so by the time he is 18 he has enough to say “See ya!” And walk out the door and not look back. You treat him like  like the ball and chain you are forced to tote around that keeps you from devoting more time and resources to your star child.

In a normal conversational tone, ask your other kid if you think the situation as is fair to him and then listen to his answer and don’t answer with “Thats not true! Or you don’t understand or it’s different for other DS or he is so talented that he has to do this sport[/quote]

I'm not going to explain why you're wrong about DS's activity, but just know that you are wrong about a lot of this.

I get that what I'm doing isn't working. That's why I'm asking for advice.  :idea:

However, I will correct your perception of my relationship with other DS. He DOES get an allowance. He often CHOOSES to spend his own money on things because he wants to- even times when I say, "Hey do you need money to cover that movie?" he'll say, "No I've got it." Other times, he's totally fine to ask me for money. I do A LOT for other DS and he does not feel slighted- yes, we've discussed it. The kids are different and they get different resources. [/quote]

You said yourself - you fill guilty you are a single parent and you are struggling with that guilt but there is no reason to feel guilty.

You hate the situation you painted yourself into. There is really no solution that will be offered that you will accept. Btw your kid resent sthe hell out of you but  doesn’t tell you. I bet you ask questions like “you don’t mind do you?” So your kid feels forced to accept the situation as well.

Want to end your entitled kid? This is his last few months of the sport. After this, if he wants to continue he pays for it, arranges his own rides to practice and games, he must complete his chores at home and He must maintain good grades. He gets a set allowance. He wants more he works.

Btw does he threaten to move to his dad’s house if he doesn’t get his way?[/quote]

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