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[quote=Anonymous]I am a married, but not a parent yet, late 20s, who browses this website just casually occasionally.  I read these responses with great interest.  This is something I've always wondered about.  There was a great article in TIME magazine maybe a year ago, about happiness and having children.  The basic conclusion was that people think having children will make them happy, but many times it just pulls them in too many directions and they are less happy.  The big takeaway was that it was most fulfilling to have one child- that provided most of the advantages- without the greater drawbacks that come from having two or more.

[quote=Anonymous]After having one child, I realized parenting is not exactly what I thought it would be, and that it affected my ability to live the life I wanted much more than I had thought it would (not in terms of going out and partying, but in terms of having a rewarding career, time to think and read, travel, etc.).  I am very happy that I had my son anyway, and love him very much, but it made me realize that one child is enough for me.  I feel like with one, I can eventually bounce back and get back some of the other things I enjoy - hey, hopefully my son will enjoy reading and traveling with me one day - but more than one would be waaaay too much for me.  If friends ask if I am planning to have another, I am honest about this.  [/quote]

This resonates with me.  I will see what we end up doing.  But this is good to think about.

One other view is- though I see many advantages to having just one... in my own life, my siblings are some of my best friends and I can't imagine where I'd be without them.[/quote]

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