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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marriages work better with a division of responsibilities, when one partner stays home to manage the kids and the family life, and the other is the breadwinner.

Everyone would be happier in the end.
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I hear husbands of SAHMs complain about the arrangement. I imagine it's hard for them to digest that they could have double the income if she worked. Sometimes I hear comments that are outright resentful. I have a lot of SAHM friends and it makes me cringe when I hear male colleagues talk like this, so I say things like "I wish I had a SAHP!" etc. But you should know that there are pressures on traditional relationships as well. [/quote]

Granted, I work in BigLaw where money isn't an issue (except for those that spend wildly), but I have never once heard any of my colleagues complain about having a SAHM.  Unless your DW was making well into the six figure pre-baby, the dual income is irrelevant.  My friends and I absolutely appreciate how valuable it is for the family and our careers to have someone handling domestic stuff.

However, if it makes OP feel better, even men married to SAHMs weren't getting laid that often either when the kids are young (at least not by their wives).  So yes, her DH needs to step up and yes that will help ease resentment but unlikely it will have any effect on her libido.  Perhaps she will be willing to have sex, but willing and wanting are two different things.[/quote]

I have never heard anyone complain about this either.  I’m a physician, so I hear about complaints and domestic problems in all walks of life, but I’ve never heard a man complain that his wife stays home and raises their children.  Now, I have had plenty ask me why I’m not at home, and plenty complain when their wives aren’t actually taking care of the kids, but not that she is at home raising kids instead of hiring a nanny and going to work.  
I don’t know about sex.  I have only had one man complain that his wife wouldn’t have sex with him.  And he was a terribly narcissistic man who had married a beautiful, but damaged, woman who used sex like a weapon.  Otherwise, most people seemed content.  Or at least content enough not to whine to their doctor about it.  [/quote]

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