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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Marriages work better with a division of responsibilities, when one partner stays home to manage the kids and the family life, and the other is the breadwinner.

Everyone would be happier in the end.
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I hear husbands of SAHMs complain about the arrangement. I imagine it's hard for them to digest that they could have double the income if she worked. Sometimes I hear comments that are outright resentful. I have a lot of SAHM friends and it makes me cringe when I hear male colleagues talk like this, so I say things like "I wish I had a SAHP!" etc. But you should know that there are pressures on traditional relationships as well. [/quote]

Granted, I work in BigLaw where money isn't an issue (except for those that spend wildly), but I have never once heard any of my colleagues complain about having a SAHM.  Unless your DW was making well into the six figure pre-baby, the dual income is irrelevant.  My friends and I absolutely appreciate how valuable it is for the family and our careers to have someone handling domestic stuff.

However, if it makes OP feel better, even men married to SAHMs weren't getting laid that often either when the kids are young (at least not by their wives).  So yes, her DH needs to step up and yes that will help ease resentment but unlikely it will have any effect on her libido.  Perhaps she will be willing to have sex, but willing and wanting are two different things.[/quote]

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