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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm another person who thinks there's more going on here than just your DH not pulling his share.  The arrangement you describe sounds about par for the course for many marriages in the DC area.  Both parents are working downtown, 2 kids in daycare, long commutes. Both parents are at the ends of the rope. One parent ends up doing more than the other. But as you describe, it doesn't sound like an insanely one-sided situation. Both of you sound really busy and tired.  It's not like he's sitting around watching football all the time while you're vacuuming.  He's running around too. It's just that some people have more capacity than others for really, really running into the ground.  I also think your weekends sound weird - that you spend the whole time with babies in arms while you vacuum, and he's doing what exactly?

In any event, it sounds like your dynamic is much more a symptom of your larger marital issues - that you're doubling down on doing all this stuff and being mad at him and refusing sex, and he's doubling down on being mad at you and not not doing stuff and being mad about sex.  Sounds like a pretty typical marriage about to fall apart, and less about him not pulling his weight.  Btw, i think you outright refusing sex as effectively a punishment is just as bad as him outright refusing to do stuff around the house. You're both just playing mean.

Either get counseling, or get divorced.  But this isn't about him not pulling his weight. [/quote]

This. [/quote]

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