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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here.

I’m not shaming my daughter.  I haven’t brought it up at all.  She didn’t say anything until her check-up when she was weighed.  Her pediatrician brought it up to me privately and DD seemed concerned about the weight gain.  I reassured her this often happened before puberty but that it was important to continue exercising and eating healthy.

She gained 28 pounds from May 3 to August 2nd.  She slang May 18th to July 29th with my ex husband.

My ex husband and I are both overweight.  We were both overweight children.  I work very hard to stay active and eat well, I’m still about 15-20 pounds overweight.  I had lost a significant amount before my daughter was born.  My ex does not eat well or stay active.  Her step siblings are average weight but both are younger boys (7&9).

DD is very athletic and strong, she has an athletic build that can easily become hefty.  The weight gain is apparent and has changed her body pretty significantly.  It’s mostly in her stomach, arms and face.  Her face changed a lot with the weight.

She’s gotten about 3/4 of an inch taller since her visit in early May.

Again, I’m a realist.  This amount of weight gain in 3 months is a lot.  I was an overweight teen.  I know the stats, it’s harder to stay at a healthy body weight when you struggle with weight as a kid.  I want to give my daughter a healthy start, it is a priority.  I’m not here to body shame my kid, I’m just concerned from a health standpoint. [/quote]

OP, you sound like your head is on straight. I think it would be weird not to talk a bit to your daughter since this is a change, she isn't happy about it, and you know how hard a challenge this has always been for you. How about bringing your daughter into the process of improving the food choices and activity level at home together? I think that problems will come in if you are a hypocrite (my mom, banning sweet snacks but had candy hidden upstairs).  I don't think she is too fragile to understand that what happened wasn't normal. I would worry more that if you did t say anything, she might choose to lose the weight in an unhealthy way.
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