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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OP here. I am glad I read these comments and realize I am out of touch.  I originally was a bit offended when she told me all this because a.) I felt like it implied my own children wouldn't think of her or take care of her in old age when they have a good relationship and seem to genuinely like each other and b.) it felt like she was just picking a paycheck over marriage.  She is very interested in living together/buying a 2nd vacation home together in a place we both love.  I guess I just assumed we would get married.  [b]She very frankly told me "my husband worked a job he hated for years to ensure I would be provided for in all circumstances of life."  which to me doesn't seem like "independent woman" it seems like picking the "richer" man.  I know I need to change my thinking on that. [/b][/quote]

Yes, you do. Her husband is dead. She is not picking another man. You are feeling emasculated because she doesn't want to combine finances with you, a proposition in which you have very little to lose and she has lots to lose.

You need to do some serious soul searching to decide if you can live with her choice. If not, you both deserve to move on. [/quote]

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