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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Friendships change over time. Money is just one reason why, though often a big reason. If it's valuable to you, then even though it isn't really fair -- you will avoid the issues she's insecure about -- things; cars; vacations; etc. Like the PPs above, if you want to continue to be friends focus on ideas, events, etc. not who is going where/how cool it would be to live here or drive there because clearly that's hurting her feelings even though you aren't bragging about your OWN trips or commenting on where she should live.[/quote]

OP doesn’t have any ideas. All her conversation in the first post about cars, house, etc. Who wants boring friends?[/quote]

OP here -- somehow I've survived 3+ decades of my life with no ideas. Don't know how I've managed really.

Reality is -- the ideas I have she doesn't care about; I read about and think about business, finance, the markets, interesting small businesses etc. Her ideas -- prison reform, black people being punished more severely, black lives matter, school to prison issues (she isn't black). Frankly I don't care about her ideas as much as she doesn't care about mine. Before this non profit job, she NEVER talked about social justice and now it's what she's into. I think the dr. above is right. The friendship is running its course and sadly may evolve into one where we see each other 4x a year at BBQs and parties, not one where the two of us grab dinner and talk.[/quote]

So basically, you are a person who does not care about social justice issues who is friends with someone who does. You think she is dumb for not caring about money and prioritizing social justice work. She thinks you are shallow for prioritizing money. As a result, you have conversations that are awkward and both think the other is wasting her potential.

This friendship has run its course. No need to be dramatic. Just stop setting up get togethers. She won’t miss you. You won’t miss her. Everyone wins.

- a social worker who is best friends with a big law attorney [/quote]

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