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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]So I have an insanely difficult MIL. Like you, [b]all her family agrees she's awful but no one wants to deal with her. [/b]

I absolutely have used the confrontation method. "Why did you ____ ??" If she says "OMG you are making a mountain out of a molehill relax" I respond, "no, why did you do that? Why?" Until she backs down.

The other thing I do is be critical back. For example, she thinks our house and furniture is junky. So if she starts in on that stuff, I say, "Well I love my table and am glad I'm not worried about my small children damaging it, but why did you spend $20k on a dining table? Can't you think of better things to do with the money? My friend is fundraising for lawyers to represent asylum seekers, isn't that a better use of the money?"

Now. Of COURSE this didn't turn her into a kind person. But now she fears me and actually tells her sisters I am abusive and domineering.

But they know her so no one is buying it. [/quote]

This is exactly it - including DH.  She actually tries to pit people against each other (triangulate), and everyone is over it.  The people in her community (not really friends, it is an exclusively friends through their husbands type of thing) act this way to each other, and her.  So in MILs world, being snarky, bitter, disagreeable, NPD-like, dismissive, negative, disrespectful, unpleasant, disparaging, condescending and overly serious (like other PP mentioned - spot on) - along with focusing a convenient scapegoat, is how life is meant to be lived. [/quote]

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