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[quote=Anonymous]I was in OP's shoes, except spouse was fired.  It was HARD, but part of what made it particularly hard was that it was not a decision we made together; spouse's employer ended the current job, and spouse chose not to look for another one without giving me much say.  We worked through it, but it would have been a lot easier if we had talked at the outset about the additional duties spouse would take on, even though spouse did not want to SAH and we kept the kids in daycare.  Now, spouse does all pickups, all groceries, all cooking, and all managing finances and house stuff.  But, it took a lot of work to get there, and a lot of tough conversations and seething resentment.  The current arrangement makes it possible for me to push harder at work to keep earning at a level where spouse does not have to work, and it makes our house run more smoothly than if we were both FTE.

All that said, the kids are getting older, and I am tired of the grind, so spouse is going back to work in the hopes that I will be able to step back for a while.  We shall see...

Good luck, OP.  If you go down this path, talk continuously and candidly with your spouse about expectations, timelines, finances, and contingency plans.  Expect resentment on both sides, and do not let it fester.  Talk it out.  [/quote]

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