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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]Your kids are 14 and 15. I don't understand the point of cutting the ILs off at this point. What were you doing all the years prior? Why is it suddenly a problem enough for you to face it? Were you able to keep up the pretend equal love for all those years (like your fake Christmas presents) and now you cannot anymore? If you were keeping up with the fake love, no wonder your child is crying for an hour. Come clean with your kid, help him deal with reality were some people are more liked than others. Repair the damage you've done. Seems like you are focusing on the wrong things. ILs are not the issue at this point. You are the issue and how you choose to deal with it. [/quote]
The point would be to show her son that it is not OK for people to treat him badly. I am appalled that the OP seems to be the only member of the entire family willing to stand up for her 15 year old son. WTH is wrong with his father and brother? Pretty sure I know what is wrong with the grandparents. [/quote]
It's been 15 years. Did OP just wake up? Lots of damage is already done and more will be done with a drastic approach.  I am all for cutting of people, but at the right time. Here we have teenagers who should be able to form their own relationship with grandparents at this point (aka 15yo should be saying "screw you, grandma " instead of crying)[/quote]
DP. Not necessarily pro-cutting off. However, this is also an issue for the 14 y/o. OP and DH could have used this as opportunity to teach him to be kind and to politely stand up for his brother. The grandparents will be dead for the majority of both sons lives and fostering a healthy relationship of mutual support between the two boys so at this point it’s a little bit more than just explaining sometimes people don’t like you. [/quote]

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